A few weeks ago, ex's mom started her games again. So long story short, when his vehicle broke down, he walked to my house and I found him collapsed in my driveway. He had a heart attack and stroke and was in the hospital and now rehab. He has some short term memory loss and is having trouble putting thoughts into words, if that makes any sense. I am his decision maker because I will not prolong death and I am the only person who understands wanting to die or commit suicide rather than deal with his mom. He cannot make decisions currently. Also, our son is sensitive so it would be easier for me to cut cords than him.
Of course, his brother is not around and his mom was put in respite. Problem is they put her in an AL, rather than NH. The AL does not even have a full time RN nurse for all the care, especially wound care she needs.
I got home from teaching a class today and APS and the waiver nurse Annie were in my driveway. I called my lawyer who is out of town for the week. When I got out of the car, they started in about him being in hospital and they put me down as informal support at her request. I asked if they realized I was suing them and asked them to contact my lawyer and leave. They didn't so I started recording it.
As informal support (which, no, I am not), they want me to do wound care or drive ex to facility to do it. Also, she is violent and harassing to facility employees. Even though brother promised facility to pick her up several times, he just bails and has work say he's out of town, no suprise there. I stated several times, it is not my problem and gave them copies of the lawyer's letter.
I lost it, asked Annie if she has dementia, was dropped on her head as a child, or was just plain stupid. She tried to guilt me about the hallucinations, sepsis and death...oh, and me being abusive because I don't care and will not take responsibility.
I am laying down shaking and I do not know if it is a panic attack or just rage. I have hyperventalated once already. Since I can't get ahold of my lawyer, any suggestions?