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Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.

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CW I said the oo how exciting bit when she rang to tell me, is the trouble. Then she sent me the pictures. If I just say oo how exciting again she'll probably want to have me assessed for dementia.

This fiancé has grown on me a lot, he's a good boy; but in this context - he is an architect. He thinks living in a building site is normal, and he's used to spending other people's money 🤔
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You could always say, "WOW! What a house!!"

Lol "they'll be lucky if the Shakers don't sue for libel" cracked me up. Realtors get quite creative in some of their descriptions, that's for sure.
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Willie, I've been saying that to people for ages. Who knew I was so current. LOL

I guess it's better than letting them see your eyes glaze over and your neck tipping cause you are starting to nod off I suppose. Mind you, I've had years of practice. My Hubs and everyone in his family barely pause to take a breathe when they talk. My F I L has been known to tell two hour stories. By the end no one is really listening. One time he was telling a story I'd heard several times before. I think 45 min. in i got up to retrieve my emery board thinking I might as well be doing something useful while he was droning on. He actually paused to wait for me.................then M I L said "are we boring you?" I was so tempted to say yeah, actually, you are.

I've been finding it harder and harder every day to pretend interest in things that don't interest me. I guess it's a sign I'm becoming old and intolerant. I'm sure next thing you know I'll be shouting "you young whipper snappers!" to my neighbors. God help me!
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Here's some advice about that I read just the other day - "you must be so excited!"

Whether it's an engagement to someone questionable (as it was where I read it) or an offer to purchase a money pit it acknowledges their feelings without revealing your own.
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Waiting for the phone to ring... :(

Not really! I'm hardly 17 any more, after all. But every one of those kids has rung to say 'can I call you on...' and then there's been not a peep out of them otherwise. It's not the not ringing, it's the volunteering and not doing it that makes me grind my teeth.

D1 I really don't mind so much she hasn't called, though. She and her fiancé have just had an offer accepted on a house they want to buy, and she's very excited, and she sent me the brochure with a little ❤️on the email.

Oh lordy. What do you say when you have been racking your brains for two days and can't think of a single nice comment to make?

That bathroom will be FREEZING in the winter, and it's on the ground floor, beyond the kitchen, and it'll drive them mad. They'll have to redecorate throughout. The tiny yard is a complete tip. There are stains on the front wall which means the guttering is dodgy. And it's *eye-wateringly* expensive, and she's all happy because they got a chunk knocked off the asking price. "Shaker-style" kitchen my arse! - they'll be lucky if the Shakers don't sue them for libel.

I'm just hoping to goodness it all falls through. Can't very well say that to her, though, can I.

So I turned to Auntie Google for advice, and this came up on a very nice lady's blog about coping with adult children but I couldn't find her name to accredit it:


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Notes to Self: Daily Reminders

Overlook it. If you can't overlook it, forgive it.

It's their life.

If they want advice, they'll ask for it.

Keep up your own interests.

Be enthusiastic. It beats being critical.

It's better to be liked than right.

Let them treat you to something.

Keep good-housekeeping tips to yourself

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Which all seemed eerily relevant.
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I'm feeling bored and a little lonely - what is everyone doing today?
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Great news, MsMadge!
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Update : Some good news

a couple of months ago, a friend's dh had aspirated and she made the tough decision to allow a feeding tube - he's been improving and able to handle purée enough that it is looking like the tube will be removed
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That is soooo much better re-naming Frosty a "snow sculpture". Ha ha ha!
It won't hurt near as bad when running the car over "it".
Does the snow sculpture have a black top hat, a corncob pipe, and a button nose?
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So I thought I would compromise by shovelling just 1/2 the driveway and using the pile of snow to make a snow sculpture. Yeah, I got tired and it's still just a pile of snow.
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Try not to build the snowman in the driveway. You'd have to run over Frosty getting the car out.
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Build a slushy snowman, just for fun, fresh air, exercise.

And let it melt. The first light snow always melts. Doesn't it? lol

We had a small amount of snow yesterday morning here. Today it's all gone.
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We've had a few inches of heavy wet snow - should I shovel the drive, build a snowman or just hibernate in the hope it melts soon?
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Sorry Send and everyone who near these fires. I have family there too. And family fighting them as well.
You are in my prayers. It is such a devastating thing these fires. I use to live there too and it was horrible practically year after year of fires.
Anyway, I am very sorry for what you all are experiencing.
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About the fires, not sure what the solutions should be to avoid destructive fires like these in the future, but I think a couple of reasons why so many homes are destroyed is because more and more houses are being built closer and closer to where the woods are, and on top of that, the trees are not being cleared around those housing developments. With the drought, those trees get dry and are just waiting to burn.

So sad for those who lost their loved ones, and whose homes are destroyed, Being homeless around the holidays is horrible. And the homeless pets, the dead wild animals...it's just very sad.

California really needs a plan to avoid wild fires like these from happening again. If not, more people will die, more houses will be destroyed, more dead animals and pets.
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Thank you Mally.
And MsMadge, for the coffee and donut!
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Praying my head off for you, Send, and others, plus animals, in California fire areas!
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In honor of caregiver appreciation day, a big thank you to everyone on A/C

🍩☕️
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Glad to have this thread as a refuge......friends are here.
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Thank you Luckylu....
Elderly loved one was just hospitalized.
When asked if he wanted CPR, he said yes.
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Your'e right Send...Those fires are horrible and hurting so many people and animals.Many have died and some are missing.The fires are only 25 % contained I heard,so far and there's so much bad stuff in the air,it makes it hard to breathe.I'm so sorry about the fires and especially that they are close to you.
I wish I could send some of this snow and cold that way,somehow.
Sorry you had such a rough night too.
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Truth is.....reduced to tears just googling the air quality in the general area.
There are so many people in trouble, lives and homes threatened from the fires.

Last night was hard to get to sleep, with PTSD symptoms, all over the place with anxiety, hypervigilance.

Once acknowledged, turning off any news, trying to be positive, and upbeat.

Not good enough.....
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gOOD mORNING !
sUNNY AND CLEAR, IN PARTS OF sOcAL.

cWILLIE, Send that stuff here for the folks who need it, yes, they would so appreciate your gesture.

Hey! a shout out to Canada, and Gershun.
Did you open your blinds/curtains this morning?
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When I opened my blinds this morning - aaaahhh! It's a Winter Wonderland!! But it's NOVEMBER - and not even late in the month! I can't even remember when I've seen the sun for more than a few hours, I wish I could send all this cloudy rainy damp cold and snowy weather off to the USA west coast where it would be appreciated.
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In the quiet moments of the day, Cwillie
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At the going down of the sun, and in the morning
We will remember them.
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I have budgeted for myself to purchase 1 audible version to all the ebooks that I purchased from my favorite authors in Amazon. I usually scroll through the kindle and purchase the next audible to the series. 2 days ago, I could have sworn I purchased this audible. Instead of turning on the laptop and checking my Word list, I purchased it for $12.99.

Since I was in my 20's, in actual paper notebooks, I list every single book I purchased - whether on island at flea markets or online. On the laptop, I have a Word File on all the books I purchased- based on genre and in alphabetical orders of authors. You can imagine I have a long list of ebooks.

It was bugging me that I bought that audible when I could have sworn I already purchased it. Yep, this morning, I checked my list. Including the recent purchase of the audible, I have MISSING in both my Amazon account and in my Kindle - 4 audibles (books 3, 4, 5 and 6.) Her series ended on book 10. I'm really pissed off. If I wasn't so OCD about listing all the books I've purchased, I would have just thought I THOUGHT I purchased those audibles but didn't. Now, I have to backtrack and look through my notebook to find the dates those audibles were purchased, then dig up my bank statements (which I still have since time beginning and never got around to getting rid of) to show I purchased it. Then I will contact Amazon to get reimbursed for purchasing twice that audible and to re-instate my audibles for books 4, 5 and 6...

I wondered why my audible books in Kindle looked so few!!! Now I have to backtrack. This time, I'm going to open a Word file for all the audibles I purchased. D*rn it!!!
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CWillie,
You have the lines of Hamlet down pretty good! However, concerning you, I am sure there is a beautiful blooming garden in your future.

HAMLET
Oh, that this too, too sullied flesh would melt,
130Thaw, and resolve itself into a dew,
Or that the Everlasting had not fixed
His canon 'gainst self-slaughter! O God, God!
How weary, stale, flat, and unprofitable
Seem to me all the uses of this world!
135Fie on ’t, ah fie! 'Tis an unweeded garden
That grows to seed. Things rank and gross in nature
Possess it merely. That it should come to this.
But two months dead—nay, not so much, not two.
So excellent a king, that was to this
140Hyperion to a satyr. So loving to my mother
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Agree.

It's hard enough to be a maverick when you win approval and acknowledgement. To go on doing it for two decades in the teeth of jeering hostility (and I can't offhand think of *any* commentators, not even in fashion, who are b*tchier and more snobbish and more up themselves than the British music press) and never doubt yourself and never stop growing creatively - amazing man. Just amazing.

Bowie did, too, and for longer; but then they all adored him. He could do no wrong. Freddie could do nothing right. They were utter jackals to him, and now look at them all going on about his genius. They make me sick.
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Freddie Mercury, if you ask me was one of the most entertaining musical front men of his time. I think old Freddie would have had pointed opinions about who played him. I wonder if they passed this by the surviving members of the band before they decided on who would play him.

I thought I might like this movie but then I think it would be difficult to encapsulate Freddie in any shape or form. They broke the mold after he was born.

I haven't been to see a decent movie in years. I've become very picky about what I'll waste two hours watching. One t.v. series I have really enjoyed the last two years is "A Handmaid's Tale" Country, I don't know if you get this one or not but I'd give it a view if you can get your hands on it. Season three will be starting soon so you have a chance to binge watch the first two seasons.
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