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Good evening everyone! About a month ago I posted how I had gotten married and my mom (71) hates my husband and I was feeling awful about evicting her from my home. The home was left to my brother and I. He signed his share of the home to me back in 2011.Just an update:I discovered my drug addict brother has a secret relationship. Kept it from us which is fine but my bro is a drug addict and a thief and my mom enables him. Well I went to my home and tried telling my mom my bro has not only been abusing drugs and stealing but he’s been lying about everything. He’s always lied but he told this bf my dad died during 9/11 ( he didn’t), told his bf he is a PA (my bro is 33 and has never worked). My mom didn’t want to hear it. My bro started screaming at me how my mom takes care of him and I’m the crazy one. And his bf is a liar and bipolar. You get the point. I was so upset I told my mom either pay rent or you both have to leave my home. She said no she will not pay my rent. My lawyer has served her with an eviction notice. I did feel immense guilt. But then my mom paid $1500 to my bros loans because again he doesn’t work and another $1000 to his unemployment. He collected $6000 and now the state wants their money back. I’m angry because I pay all the bills in my house which I don’t even live there. She won’t give me rent money but she can pay a 34 yr old man’s bills because he refuses to get a job. I have allowed them to live in my home for 14 years bill free. While I still feel bad about the whole situation I’m so angry. I’m angry my bro is a waste but I’m angry at my mom for allowing this. I’ve done everything for her. I’ve been her best friend, I’ve been her care taker, I’m taken her on trips, concerts. My bro has done nothing but steal our grandmothers jewelry, taken out loans in my moms name, and now lying about everything from how my dad died to how he worked in a children’s hospital. I feel so betrayed by both of them. I love my mom but for months she threatened me regarding my home and how she would sue me for it, both of them didn’t come to my wedding, talked terrible about my husband and even contacted my coworkers and friends about how awful my husband is. I apologize if I’m all over the place, it’s just been so much ever since I got engaged and and only worse since we actually got married in May.Thank you for listening to me vent

Melrose, great big warm hug!

These situations are never easy. Good for you that you are changing the dysfunctional dynamics and taking care of you.

Follow through with this or it will get worse, BTDT.
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(((((Hugs))))) I am so sorry for what you are going through. Enabling is destructive to all concerned. I am glad you are taking steps to stop it as far as you can, though I know this is not easy.

Vent away. I hope it helps you. I wish you peace with your decisions.
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You're welcome. About all we can do is listen in a complicated situation such as this. Good luck.
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