Mom has some cognitive impairment, poor short-term memory, and tends toward "wishful thinking" sometimes. She just called me and asked if I was coming over for lunch. I said no, that's a nice idea, but we don't have plans today. She said ok, she will go have lunch in her buiIding's dining room (she was already half an hour late for that.) I didn't even have time to remind her that her building (independent living) still limits visits and requires negative covid tests for entry by family members, or that indoor restaurant dining is very limited around here (and I'm not doing it anyway,) or that it is still too cold for outdoor dining. Anyway, when I get these kinds of calls from her, I always feel bad that I am not seeing her or going places with her, as I used to, pre-pandemic (we talk daily sometimes more than once, videochat occasionally, but she finds that difficult.) So she is off to have lunch, and I have a sinking feeling in my stomach. Why, and how do I stop feeling so bad- like I can never do enough?