he says if doesn’t do what they want they will send our sons to prison or they will make me sick. He says the government’s technology can do anything. Examples like stopping a car, stopping his lawnmower, making him sick, causing our rooster to crow, and almost anything that happens. My husband is always helping our neighbors and he’s becoming physically exhausted. He refuses to go to the doctor because the government controls them. He’s been diagnosed with white matter disease and Alzheimer’s by the VA but that was years ago.
The internet is your friend now in terms of educating yourself and of learning coping techniques that may or may not help. YouTube and Teepa Snow's videos may also help you. Best of luck to you.
Call your county Veterans Services office. Ours is in the county courthouse. Because your husband is ill, ask for an in-home evaluation. You can pass off the Vet Services officer as a friend; it will likely NOT be a medical person but someone trained to determine what help husband is eligible for. They will visit with you and husband (and you will already have briefed this office about his condition).
On your first phone call with their office, tell them that you are concerned that husband's disabilities might have been caused by his military service. Agent Orange, for one thing. Other toxins. Combat. The Vet Services office coordinates with the U. S. VA. They will make appointments for husband to be evaluated. If you say he won't go, they may do it in your home. Fortunately, the VA has already diagnosed him for white matter disease and Alzheimers. He will be in their data base, hopefully.
After evaluation, husband may qualify for MAJOR compensation for his disabilities. If not major, at least something. You may get help at home. They will also guide you to VA services, doctors, and excellent hospitals. You will not be facing this alone anymore.
Start doing these things right away, and good luck. Be thankful that our country takes care of our brave veterans!
He now needs medication to help calm down his paranoia and him in general. Tell him that Medicare now requires him to have an annual physical in order to keep the insurance in force. Tell him you looked into it and his doctor is not controlled by the government, thankfully, so it's safe to go there.
As JoAnn suggested, tell your neighbors to not allow your husband to do ANY work for them anymore. If you cannot get all of this under decent control, he'll need to be placed in managed care for his own safety.
Best of luck with a difficult situation.