It's a small Apt and my mother is very manipulative and I can't seem to get any cooperation from either one. My brother is 56 and I'm 54. I've had to take care of my mom constantly for the last 10 or more years. She is on some heavy medicine and takes too much and when she runs out, demands mine which are the same as hers. She throws tantrums and makes my life a living hell. . My brother is a walking time bomb not helping me do anything and demands he have that room and Mom lets him. It's only us 3 left in our family and we'll u can just imagine the rest. Please help me!!! Lost in Ga
Nope, I can't even begin to, nor would I want to, imagine the rest.
Do you have a job?
Are you able to rent a room for yourself to start with?
Could you enlist the help of a social worker?
Just start somewhere, and keep moving forward. Get yourself out of that unhealthy situation.
All best.
Good luck to you taking your life back.
There is nothing any of us can do about this since you allow all of this to happen.
Also distributing drugs is a felony and you telling the police your mother made you do it isn’t going to work as a defense. But maybe you will luck out and end up in jail which sounds like a better solution to this life you have made for yourself.
And if you truly need your medication quit allowing your mom to steal yours. Who cares if she throws a tantrum? Tell her doctor what is going on and that your mom is abusing her medications, and let them handle it.
This sadly sounds like a highly dysfunctional family/situation, and I'm sorry you don't see a way out.
The only way I see a way out is if you move out on your own and don't let your mom or brother suck you back in again. And that may mean going to a homeless shelter for the time being.
And if your mom truly requires 24/7 care, then she belongs in a facility where her medications will monitored and where she won't be able to manipulate anyone.
You will be then be free to live this one life you've been given.
And in case no one has told you this....you are NOT responsible for your mom or her care, but you are responsible for yourself.
So I hope you take the necessary steps to take your life back and start enjoying your life.
You say that you and mother share a small apartment. It is crucial we know
1. Who pays for apartment
2. Who's on the lease as the apartment renter.
Then we can begin to answer this question.