My parents both need memory care. More so my mother, but they are both very feeble. I'm considering placing her in the retirement center in our town, and placing my dad in the VA facility, only a couple of blocks away. One reason is that the wait list at the retirement center for a couple is longer than for a single person. Another reason is that they would save $2,000 monthly if Dad went to the VA.
Both are excellent facilities. I'm looking for any opinions/experiences with placing parents separately.
Depends (to me) if they remember or will remember and ask "where is xxx?"
You can always say, she's in the bathroom or at the store. Will he forget then?
I wouldn't tell them specifically though if you are separating them.
As they may not figure that out.
As they are used to being together, I think they may miss the other ... although between visits, staff, other residents, they may not notice the 'other' isn't there on a regular basis.
To save $ would be a necessity if I had to consider.
And, they aren't that far apart. It is - perhaps - a 'good walk' to visit one or the other. You are very fortunate that the VA is an excellent facility.
Let us know how what you decide.
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