Mom will not move. I have a feeling the director is going to leave it to us to physically remove her. Has anyone faced this and how have you handled it?
My Dad and the continuing care facility they live in have decided they need to move to assisted living. Dad is OK with it; Mom, who has been diagnosed with dementia, is not. I am hoping this is not the case, but I have a feeling she will have to be physically removed from their independent living apartment into AL. Obviously, the facility is not going to call the sheriff to handcuff her and have her evicted, even though technically she is being evicted. All someone has to do is pick up a cell phone and start filming, and there goes the reputation of the facility (which, by the way, has been fantastic in the face of my mother's anger and resistance; it's a beautiful facility and the people are wonderful, but Mom's past recognizing that).
The director is wonderful except in one crucial respect: She refuses to give information about what "might" happen in any given scenario. She very much deals with things in the moment. Dealing with my mother, I have appreciate why--things can change very fast. But in this, it impacts my brother and me severely, and it would be nice to know what the facility does in these cases. My brother is again making a pitch to know, but I have a feeling the director is going to leave it to us to determine how to physically remove her.
So, assuming my brother can't get an answer, my question is, has anyone faced this and how have you handled it? My brother and I are probably strong enough to overpower her, but forcing her down the stairs (or elevator), into a car for the short trip to AL, and out of the car and into their AL apartment could result in injury to her, and possibly to us (we are 67 and 63, respectively, but in pretty good to great condition; Dad can't help because he's really weak from Parkinson's disease).