So I’ve posted before about evicting my 71 year old mom and my drug addict brother. Well we are still in the process. My mom went and filed criminal charges against me “communicating threats”, my bro lied and said I whipped him with a dog lease. So besides my eviction lawyer I hired a criminal defense lawyer. They think this will stop the eviction process. They have been harassing all my friends and coworkers. Now they have contacted my boss. It’s just been a nightmare. Then last night my bro who is 34, does cocaine, doesn’t work, and has stolen at least 30k in money and jewelry contacted my friend claiming my mom has a spot on her lung. Which she probably does she smokes easily a pack a day. A quick recap I pay all the bills in my house. Her and my brother have been there since 2013. My husband and I just got married in May and all hell broke loose. They continue to harass him and myself. I offered my mom and bro to pay 1000 in rent. I said I’d continue paying utilities, her cell phone, WiFi, taxes and repairs needed. They said no we want to go to court. I felt terrible guilt over evicting her. After she decided to file a false police report I didn’t feel so bad. I wish it never came to this. And now other family members are involving themselves. But when I asked for help to mediate no one wanted to be bothered. Which I totally understand we all have our own issues. I guess I needed to vent or has anyone else gone through this. my best friend says my mom is having a psychotic break because at 41 I’m finally living for myself and not my mom. My mom has even told people the plan was I take care of my grown bro when she passes. I was never supposed to get married apparently. My mom has no friends, most family don’t speak to her. It’s always been on me to do everything. My bro is upset because he told my friends he’s young and should be out partying not taking care of my mom.l’m immensely grateful to anyone who has taken the time to read this and to respond
Wishing you well with your marriage and your decisions. I am glad you are breaking away from this dysfunctional family. Sometimes that's our only option.
Doing the legal part might be the easier portion. Having been programmed to believe you are your mother and brother’s servant might take a minute to shake.
Find a therapist to help you heal and stay strong.
Come back and let us know how it’s going.
We care.
Don't pay the phone or any utilities that are not needed for your home. Pay the water because you want the house to be cleaned!
If you stop paying for the gas or electric, make sure those bills aren't in your name. If they are, then don't do anything that will give you trouble.
But definitely stop paying for phone bills!
I hope that you get this sorted as soon as possible through legal measures. Best of luck to you.
I hope you are in therapy to handle all these emotions. Seems that the people that truly need therapy, don't get it and the ones that they abuse have to get it. Seems so unfair.
To go to your job!!! That has been supporting your mom, that's just unforgivable.
So sorry!!! 😔💞
Because as long as you continue to enable them(yes you are enabling them)things will NEVER change.
Don't you think that you and your husband deserve a life of peace and not all of this ridiculous drama? If you answered yes to that question, then do WHATEVER you have to to make that happen, including losing your house if you own it.