I am new here. This is my first post.
I am assisting my mother after a stroke. She has mobility challenges and post stroke dementia. I and my sister live with her but I am finding more and more urge for some Respite now. We have been assisting her since mid November. I have tried to bring up my urge to help her find someone she enjoys being with so I can have some breaks during the week..... I am with her alone Monday through Friday when my sister works and I also help her on weekends as my sister is often busy with household matters when she is home. My sister assists her when she can too, but I feel I need at least one weekday away from being with my mother now.
She was deeply resistant to admitting she needed help before her stroke. Now her reactions are even worse as she gets so upset at needing people's help with her mobility at this time. She needs supervision for so many of her current walking activities and daily tasks right now .... She does understand her physical challenges meaning she knows she can fall and get hurt but yet can't admit that she needs constant assistance at this time.
She refuses the possibility of anyone else being with her besides my sister and I. I am even willing to be present in the house while someone else helps her with certain things so I can at least try and attend to some additional personal matters in another area of the house ( like doing some online course studying ) and just be here to assist her for more private concerns if she doesn't want to have someone help her in the bathroom and such... But if she agreed to a helper for us I could try and have some study time in my bedroom while someone else helps her with walking or with food preparation and such.
Anyone Please have any suggestions?
THANKS SO VERY MUCH.