I have recently seen some things that have disturbed me. I've seen a parent 'asking' an adult child for a 'emergency response device' for a measly $20 bucks a month. The daughters response? No.
That answer may have been a factor in her mother's death! Two weeks later her mom is found dead in their new 'walk-in' bath tub.
When can a person KNOW their aging parents need help? Is it possible to know before tragedy strikes? We question them and get answers we 'want' to hear, and we are satisfied, right? Only to notice that the answer didn't prove to be true...
Parents don't want to be a burden. So they embellish, which is just a nice word for ' lie'. They lie.
Mom or dad may have never lied before, but they get quite proficient, when it comes to protecting their children from the truth of parents capabilities, or as in these cases, inabilities.
How can 'we' as a society, learn things no-one shared with us before? I have never been AS OLD as I am now, no one has explained that I will one day have to make decisions for my mom & dad. Why not? Isn't there a class or something to prepare a person for becoming the 'parent' of their parents?
How can I know my dad has pneumonia if he doesn't complain or call the doctor? How's a person to deal with the guilt of NOT knowing, that mom or dad, was sick, until it was too late?
Mom is gone. She was ALWAYS the strong one... When did she lose her strength? How could I not see this? No one is protected from life and its harsh realities, I know, but couldn't it be easier, in some way? Prepare me? Too much to ask, I suppose.
I guess this is what life is all about, right? Learning to deal with each of life's degrees, if you will, to make good and continue on, for this too, shall pass.
Tomorrow is, in fact, another day! Here's to seeing the 'sunrise'! God bless. C-ya!