I was a very active member of Agingcare until about a year ago. My crazy family became even more crazy at that time, and I decided I could no longer be of use to other members on the website. My father died three years ago and asked me to take care of my mother. I am the only child who lives near her. During his illness, a great deal of drama occurred. Some of it was due to the fact many family members were thrown together who had only seen each other a few times. Some of the drama was due to sheer meanness on the part of a group of adults. My older physician brother and mother hid my father's recently written medical will at all of the 8 facilities he was in. Dad was very physically ill but was very capable mentally. In the end, I was alone with Dad when he died, my brother's medical license is no longer active, I have been totally shunned by most of my relatives who used Dad's illness as an excuse to party. My mother and I are on fair terms, she is 85 and lives alone on a large farm bought by my father in over 40 years ago, and we stay in touch each morning and each night, often by texting. I grieve daily for all that has happened. I have been accused (never to my face) of stealing, lying, and a host of other issues. Could you share suggestions for dealing with this situation,please? I will provide more details if needed. My son was 17 at the time, took care of my father too, and was a main target of three adults who ridiculed him for his good grades, church involvement, and upcoming salutatorian award. He was by no means a perfect young man, but he was the youngest grandson and was doing a man's job. Thank you for any help you can provide.