I have eight brothers and sisters. My mother is in a nursing home now and she insists that I help her do things that the nursing home aides and or nurses can help her do. Such as brushing her teeth and helping her to the bathroom doing her hair and laundry. She never asks any of my siblings to help her do these things but she thinks it is my job. I have been designated as the POA in my mothers living trust and have done the lions share of taking care of her and her needs these past 6 years as her health has steadily declined. I have PTSD from dealing with the nursing home staff and fighting them about her being overmedicated etc. My siblings never volunteer to take over some of the tasks but instead want to be asked to do these things. It feels like I am an only child and makes me angry and bitter. I don't want to feel this way! My mother has no quality of life now and complains every day about it. I wish every day for my mother to die in her sleep.