I realize a big reason I stay so angry with my mother is that she was so emotionally abusive to me when I was a child. She has now lived with me for almost 2 yrs and only with psychiatric help for myself have I been able to do this. It makes me so angry when other people say how lucky my mother is to have me take care of her, or that I should be glad my mother is still alive so I can take care of her. It never seems to occur to people that the "sweet" little old lady they see is not the one I see or know. My mother does not have dementia,just narcisstic and thought when she moved in with me that she would just take up where she left off. How many of us on here are taking care of a parent that was abusive to us as children? My mother is an only child and I am only child, she had no where else to go. She "loves" me because she needs me. Why does society expect you to take care of someone that made your young life miserable?