I just want to know if I am the only one. I have 6 children, ages 11,9,7,6,2, and 5 months old.
This is way too hard.
I am taking care of my mom and my dad. My dad has Parkinsons and Dementia. My mom handles most of his care, but she is somewhat physically limited herself because she is obese and has bad knees. She basically walks from couch to couch. She refuses knee surgery. Wants nothing to do with it. She handles most of my dads care. He doesn't need much. They both basically watch tv. I handle dads meds and cook meals and take care of their house.
Lately, I just feel too stretched to do this. I need my own home to back into, so we decided to do just that.. move back into the home that we couldn't sell when we decided to move our life here to help take care of them.
My mom is heartbroken.
I still plan on helping out a lot. I still plan on coming 3-4 days per week to run their house, but I NEEEEEED to go home at night and be with my husband and children and raise our family. I have other siblings. They help in a very limited capacity, which isn't really fair because they are all done raising their children. They are empty nesters.
Mom and dad don't need a nursing home yet. They are only in their 70s. But they do need help. It was a huge blessing to them when we moved in, and we committed to it, and now we are backing out.
I feel so guilty, but not guilty enough to stay. I have no real privacy and I feel like in this season of my life, I need it. Disciplining children and doing all the things that go along with raising children.. Everything just feels very heavy.
Anyhow, I am looking for anyone to talk to who may be as young as me (36) or who has small children and is trying to live in care take as well.