The psych Dr. wrote up a rx for HHA from medicare. I made a few calls to, at home nursing facilities, and they are saying that medicare will not cover bathing MIL because it's not medically needed. I'm not sure if I'm talking to them properly to get MIL what she needs. The bottom line is she needs help at home. My health is quickly going to hell in a handbasket, and no one else seems to think she needs help (she is an exceptional showtimer) I tried every coy way to get someone in to help, including but not limited to paying the home health aide to go to family parties to introduce her as a family friend (not once but 3 times) Mil still won't let her in the house. Yesterday, I mentioned to MIL that the Dr. wants her to bath at least 2 times a week, and that's why I need help (once a week has been her life long bathing schedule but now that she is over weight she needs more) She had a melt down... her blood sugar reading was 279 (with out additional food) so the stress knocked the number out of wack. I am in the process of calming her down...walking her and givng her water. This has been the most significant change in her health in 3 years. I'm in need of advise because I know it's only going to get worse...but I need help. I don't know what to do. It's easier to just let thing be but I need help. It's a vicous circle.