My dad has depression. He has hospice in his home. My mother controls his meds, and when he does anything. She is his shadow. But our concern is that he feels 'forced' to side with her on decisions he doesn't even believe in. Recently my sister wanted to borrow their exercise bike for 3 weeks to rehabilitate from surgery. My dad is unable to use it. My mom refuses to loan it to my sister saying a lie that my dad is going to use it. That is not possible due to my dad's weakness. He called up my sister in 'secret' to apologize for letting her think she could borrow the exercise bike. He wanted her to use it, but 'our mean mom' seems to control what he can do. Any advice for helping us help him to be more assertive. He feels so bad.