My dad is getting more depressed because our 'mean' mom tells him things that he does not want to do or can do. He does not agree with her being so mean to his children. But he sits passively and feels he is to blame for her insensitivity towards the children. She doesn't filter what comes out of her mouth. She told him yesterday that she had had enough of him. He tried to tell her that she didn't need to get up in the night to care for him. Yet she does. Our poor dad is the one with the health issues of depression and weakness. He has hospice coming into their home. He is very likeable and loves people. My dad apologizes for my 'mean' mom. He has to 'sneak' to call us. Today he apologized for not letting his own daughter borrow the exercise bike for 3 weeks. He knows he can't use it. But our 'mean' mom will not let him borrow it to us. It just doesn't make any sense. Her daughter needs it to recuperate from knee surgery. Both of us do so much for her with meals and visits, but she is so unappreciative and mean to us. She gives him his meds and meals. She follows him around. She lays out his clothes. The following around by her drives my dad crazy. She would never go to a therapist. She has pulmonary fibrosis and refuses any oxygen treatment. She is hard to be with.