This is my 1st time here, so please forgive the length of my post! My mother is 86 and in the early stages of dementia. My father is 89, in fairly good health, and is the primary caregiver at this point. They live in their home which is only a couple of blocks away from myself plus my brother also lives very close. I stop by almost every day after work to visit and help her with preparing supper and any other household chores that need doing. My father has always been a doer, loved working outside on something or other and has a 'shop' where he loved going to work on cars, etc. Now that my mother is becoming forgetful and has experienced several bad falls, he is afraid to leave her alone for any length of time. He has taken to doing things around the inside of the house, he still loves to cook-out for them and does most of the cleaning these days. He's pretty awesome. However, I'm afraid he is getting the caregiver's burnout because lately he has become very short tempered with my mother. Most of the time he's fine, but he gets tired (and at 89, has his own set of aches and pains) and actually yells at her when she asks the same question for the 3rd or 4th time, continually opens and closes the refrigerator to see what's there that she can fix for dinner, interrupts a conversation to ask what he's talking about, etc. I can understand his frustration, but I know that the yelling only causes my mother to stress more which exacerbates the problem further. I feel that part of his problem is the fear of knowing and watching the love of his life (married for 63 years) going through this. I also realize it is easier for me because I am not the one living with her 24-7. The entire family makes regular visits and we give him as many ‘reprieves’ as possible, but we all still work during the day. I guess I’m searching for suggestions to help him cope and hopefully control his frustration. My mother is a very sweet woman, but never developed any hobbies other than cooking for her family. She doesn’t read anymore because she can’t put the book down and remember what she read. It’s so sad. It’s hard to get her interested in anything hands-on unless someone is right there with her. I still have 2 years of work left before I can retire and my dad isn’t much of a crafty/hobby/puzzle kind of guy. Other than her short term memory, she is in exceptional good health. I feel blessed in so many ways; one is having found this sight which has given me pause, smiles, hope and insight. I look forward to hearing anyone’s thoughts, ideas and perhaps shared experiences. Just putting my feelings into words here has helped. Thank you for listening!