I am new to forum. I am in my third year of caring for my husband with dementia and also caring for my 3-year-old grandaughter with a new grandaughter on the way. My husband is still active most days, but I am seeing rapid changes. I asked my doctor for referrals to groups but there are none that my insurance covers--believe it or not in the Seattle area. Others I found are during the day when I have my grandaughter. I rise at 4:30, pick up my grandaughter, and return home to everything moved in the kitchen, my items thrown away, repeated questions, etc. etc. My doc suggested counseling. The counselor suggested I write down issues I need to deal with, write down ways to brainstorm solutions, and choose the best one. I do not have time to do that. It's easier to just solve problems as rapidly as possible, and move on. Needless to say I am a counseling drop-out. Through many tears, I have come to the conclusion that I am in this by myself. Family says they understand, will come to give me a break, will visit, will call and on and on, but it never happens. Friends have drifted away. Everything I read says take time for yourself. When??? I have all legal paperwork in place but most likely will not be able to afford outside care if/when it comes to that. I have gained 30 lbs. and I am tired. I need a pep talk and a nap!