In 1995 my husband had heart surgery, then back surgery, then we moved to GA. for 5 years. During that time he had 2 strokes and another heart surgery, went into sleep seizures, and ended up bedridden for 7 months. I got him into a wheelchair finally by myself. No outside help because we made too much. Finally got him into walking with a walker.
Took all I had, nerves,weight and all I went down to 100 lbs. Got him back home to MD. His right hand is not working because of stroke. He has diabetes neuropathy. Has a hard time eating, dressing himself, etc. Can take shower and bathroom. Now trying to get him to do things. He wont leave apt at all only been out about 5 times. Been here for 2 years. He sits in recliner from 8:30 am to 8 pm. Only gets up to go to bathroom and to bed.
Never once went into the kitchen for anything. Even if I leave he will sit there until I get back. I am so burnt out. Not to sound selfish but I have got to have a life now. I have done all I possibly can. Don't know what to even do now. His family doesn't want anything to do with him nor do his older children. He burnt too many bridges down. I understand but I feel like I am now paying for his mistakes he has made in his life as well. I have been through enough so please be kind.