I care for for both of my parents on a pt basis. My siblings and I are trying to get them to go to assisted living, but my Mom refuses to leave and my father won't go without her. We have had numerous people assess their needs and no one seems to notice the hoarding as being a critical issue. Their health is declining and I find myself getting more involved with their care. I am a newly single Mom of a 16 year old girl. She needs me to be a Mom, and the issues with caring for my parents is affecting her. I am trying to go back to work as I haven't been able too due to the extra time in caring for my parents. Additionally my mother is very selfish and manipulative, and honestly a toxic person. I know I have to release the ties or it will have negative affects on my well being and then my daughters. Can anyone provide insight you provide guidance or resources for dealing with the hoarding issue? I have exhausted all community resources, and their PCP physician has put his hands up as to what he can do.
Also my Mom is open to getting care in the home on a daily basis, but she has control and trust issues, so she only wants certain people doing it for her. Just wondering if others have dealt with hoarding issues?