60 yrs with a mother- raging NPD with histrionics's, foul mouth woman, plus her mother, just like her. THEY HATED each other!
I had them both raging for the first 40 yrs of my life until my grandmother died. In my mind that 100 yrs of living-listening to them shred anything and everything good in this world.
Not talking family turmoil, we are talking Courts, police, lawyers, Soc Serv. Elder Protective people....signing my name to things... that kinda stuff. EXPENSIVE, time consuming, very embarrassing stuff. This is just the last straw.
5-2-19... She was on the phone and didn't hear me come in. I stood behind her listening to her tell someone how she was "going to crush that little B** into the ground before I die! She's rotten, people think she is wonderful but no one knows her like I do, I'll ruin her!" I hit record on my phone- 11min and 9 seconds I am done. I walked out. She doesn't know I have recorded it. I sent my son an email telling him I was done and I asked for his support in enforcing a no contact request to leave her to her own devices to stew for a few days. ( did not mention the recording.)True to form, she took to the telephone and called elder services and said her daughter left her without any food at 91 yrs old. They did a scheduled home visit. Sure enough, very little sustainable food was in her house. They contacted our son. He jumped right in taking her to grocery store, etc...she won that battle. I KNEW there was a full load of grocery's in that house- 4 carriages full days before. Thank God for receipts!
She then schedules Dr appts and NEEDS him to take her ( SHE calls dr and makes appt..."for pain") and then pain is gone. Eye exams, - unneeded- she has 2 lens in her eyes. Hearing aide appt. Dr checks the record and says you have new ones, where are they- he called me to see if they were lost, b/c I put insurance on them. She gets away with this crap! He think she forgets! I bump into her maintenance man- he asked if mom still has bugs? She called maintenance and he found nothing, pulled her stove and fridge, checked cabinets. Said the place was immaculate ( no kidding, I do it!) She insisted HE cleaned out her cabinets AND fridge and threw everything in the dumpster! It clicked! thats what happened to the food! I asked when, May 7th, before Elder Service visit! In the mean time, my son is thinking- mom left her without food? Mom walked away from her medical needs? Maybe what she is telling him is true about Mom? Maybe mom is messing up. She is playing him just like she plays everyone. Sweet, little ole lady, until....No appt on the schedule, food PACKED into cabinets and fridge... sweet lil ole gram! My son says I should forgive and forget, she is 91, time is short- its family, dont have regrets, she forgets, take the higher road mom, she is just lonely, she misses you, she wants YOU to apologize for walking out on her and then everything will be fine. I'm about ready to play that recording- hear her call me a F*** C*** loud and clear! stole 100K- wrote ck 10K casino husband a drunk, hits me, I poisoned her food- lab test said it was contaminated compost material. 11 min of non stop, rapid fire, fowl mouth venom. I cant do this, nor let him get dragged into it.