Mother lives 3 hours away. Brunt of caregiving lies with 2 siblings living closer, but Maine one who lives 1.5 hours away.. Mother won't leave home to stay with any of her 6 children, which would be preferable as she would be with extended family members and not be so isolated in her home alone with dog. Mother is a smoker, and staying in her home is uncomfortable for me, a non-smoker. Mother is also becoming forgetful, leaving stove on, forgetting to eat. She has a stubborn nature and doesn't want outside help coming into her home, won't stay with family members. How can I lovingly and respectfully get her to come and stay with me and/or other siblings so that family members can spend more time with her and ensure that she is well cared for in a safe environment?