I believe my mom's mental decline is due to poor nutrition. When she first moved in with me I thought she had dementia. I wanted to take care of her (at first). I was cooking, cleaning, and doing everything for her. Her mental status improved greatly and she began acting 'normal'. I realized she was able to do things for herself, but she was perfectly happy with having me wait on her hand and foot. It was exhausting! I decided to try to get her to clean up her own messes as she was leaving them all over the house. I stopped cooking as much in hopes that she would fix something herself to eat. She is capable of doing that. Instead, she became defiant and angry. She started going to fast food restaurants and bringing the stuff home to eat and piling up the bags, wrappers and cups on the table for me to throw away. She has gone back to being a junk food junkie eating nothing but fast food, ice cream and candy like before she moved in with me. At one point, I left the stuff on my table for 2 weeks. When I told her she needed to throw the trash in the trash can, she got up and walked away angry, not speaking to me the rest of the day.
She's always been selfish and anti-social, even with her own children. If you're not doing something for her or telling her how great she is she wants nothing to do with you. She has ALWAYS been this way..
Since she's been eating all of this junk I've noticed her mental capabilities decline sharply. I've tried to explain to her that all that sugar is really bad for her. Now, even when I do cook she gets her purse and runs to Taco Bell or Sonic. I even told her that someone was going to call DFACS and they would put me in jail for elder abuse. She laughed. When I ask her to throw away her trash she ignores me.
How do I get her to stop eating all this junk and clean up after herself? She can take care of herself, but she's always been stubborn and selfish.