My 92 yr old mother lives in my home. She has always been a controlling person. Things always had to be her way, and growing up I usually didn't do any thing right. I've been told by her that I am not a good daughter, but she will sing my praises to the nurse or the PT that come in to help. She's very two faced and it seems deliberate. Further she says she can't do anything. I do everything from pouring the water for her to take her pills to all meals, all cleaning everything, BUT when I go to the grocery store she wanders around the house. I know this because I have caught her and I find evidence, she will take things out of the laundry room, sometimes garbage like boxes or empty containers and bring them to her room. She's been a hoarder for years and it's hard to keep the hoard down without her goiing crazy. She's on two antidepressants but it's not enough to stop the behavior. Once when I went out for an hour I came home and found her on the floor she had walked away from her walker and fallen and broken her arm, she was mad at me because she was on the floor so long. I would like to put her in a nursing home, but I don't control her assets and she still owns part of a home out of state. The liquid assets she has will only keep her in a nursing home for a month, and according to the elder lawyer I spoke to Medicaid probably won't help till she uses the assets of that house out of state, but she won't sell it. It was her family home and she now owns it along with her niece (who is willing to sell). I just feel so stuck. She keeps saying she wants to die at home, but I feel like I'm the one that will go first.