Hi I am 41 I’m night care worker with a family. My elderly mother has mobility problems and has my dad living with her who is very able. I help when I can but she always makes me feel guilty. I take her shopping once a week and make sure my children pop in and see her once a week and I see her at least 3 times as I live 50 miles away but work 3 nights where she lives. I get comments like when you're here you're asleep and it would be nice if you're here more to keep me company. I have two brothers who live close to her and pop in once a week but I’m the only one who gets comments and it’s starting to get me down
PLEASE HELP
You need to tell Mom that you have a lot on ur plate. You work, take care of a home and family and try your best to do what you can for her. Tell her she really is lucky. Not everyone has family who makes sure they see her every week. Its not your responsibility to entertain her.
You say elderly, maybe 70? If she has no health problems than she can do for herself. She needs to rely on her husband to keep her entertained. Her children have lives of their own. They need to do things together.
You do enough.
Apart from the shopping, is there anything else you do for her? And, would *you* say that you get as much 'quality time' with her as you would like? - or, as a working mother with your own family, I expect you have to split every minute four ways as it is.
Don't let it get you down, and don't start giving in to her increased expectations of you just because you're her daughter. You are decades younger than many of us here, and it's annoying that women are often STILL expected to do more for the elders than men.