I live with my 72 year old mother and daughter but recently got remarried. My husband is building a brand new, one level apartment addition with his own money for my mother on the back of his house and I chose not to move with my husband until it is completed. He is very understanding that I don't want to leave my mother alone. She has some joint replacements and cannot walk too well. My mother hates me now and tells me I chose my husband over her because I am forcing her to move somewhere she doesn't want to into a smaller space. She doesn't want to move out of the home we have for 42 years in a failing neighborhood without even a downstairs bedroom or bathroom. She is so negative, everything I do is wrong. She makes terrible comments constantly and I feel so drained, guilty and unable to start my life. I am waiting to move and not even living with my husband for her and he is taking every last cent of his money for this addition for her! I dont know how to act anymore at home. I feel so drained and just feel like crying all the time. If I try to stand up to her she says its my husband's fault and he ruined our relationship and that I would never have talked to her in the past that way. I feel hopeless!