Mother (age 93) has mobility and heart issues, is on oxygen, and takes medications for pain and depression. She has always been a pessimistic person but since she has gotten sick her worrying has become intense. She lives in my house with my father who is bedridden. In order for me to cope with the barrage of problems, both small and large, each day I have tried to detach and solve whatever problems come up. But in the meantime until the problem can be resolved my mother obsesses over when something will get fixed and that she is going to die if it is not fixed right away, etc. The caregivers tell her "white lies" so she does not obsess over things. I have learned that there is no reasoning with her or trying to explain anything mainly because she is very hard of hearing and it would not help anyway. I just want to understand why she is so intense and how I can better alleviate her anxiety.