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One doctor took my dad off some medication and from that point my Dad decided he didn't want to take a certain other medication and decided to take it every other day. When I found he was hiding this medicine he blew up threatened to put himself in a box and now he has an unruly attitude towards me who has done everything for both parents that I'm taken care for. Won't listen. Thinks he's right all the time. Won't with hearing aid. Doesn't hear correctly with what you're saying. I need some help suggestions anything. I try to bite my tongue but I'm so frustrated and I have not had a break in over a year

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Nanabell, your profile says you are taking care of both parents while working full time. I think you are nearing burn-out for carrying such an immense load by yourself. Your dad sounds like he is maybe sliding into dementia now too, or he may have an untreated UTI (which often doesn't have any other symptoms in the elderly other than behavior/personality changes and confusion). He would need to have a test and can be treated with antibiotics, if this is the case.

You need relief, obviously. Can we assume you are their durable PoA? Has your dad ever been given a cognitive exam by a doctor? Do your parents have enough financial means to pay for in-home help until you can transition them into a nursing home?

You are not obligated to provide their care until they die, even if that's what they want and expect. No one can be involuntarily "assumed" into this type of commitment. No one will doubt you love your parents if you make other arrangements for them. The caregiving arrangement needs to work for all parties, or it doesn't work at all. An amazing number of people on this forum have been (and currently are) in your same shoes and will provide support and insight. If you can provide the extra info requested, it will help. Thanks!
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Nanabell Jun 2020
Yes both parents, work yes
Have home care set up already
Yes PoA
Looking a I so at PCA for mom which is covered
Dad not so much covered . would be out of pocket.

Have a call in for UTI possibility
When they call back will talk also about cognitive testing
I dealt with him like this before, but not this bad.
Throwing tantrums again how he can't do anything, but yet he's doing things
I don't trust taking them out to eat with the covid around..
I ask if he wants to come with me to mom's appt, but that's a no go
It really all started up when one doc took him off a medication
But when they call me back I will ask about UTI. They haven't checked on that for awhile and will ask about cognitive.
I am burning out.trying to schedule a vacation as away afew days
Thanks for the info
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