Yes, I should have divorced him many years ago. He doesn't deserve any of the care I am giving him. But, I am a forgiving person, mostly at the cost of my own self respect.
He refuses to go to a nursing home. As long as he is mentally competent and wants to go home, a nursing home/rehab cannot keep him. He was brought home by an ambulance a few weeks ago after rehab.
If you were not cared for or provided for by your husband for many years, why did you not divorce him? Trying to care for someone who's bedbound and incontinent is a very big job, and one that's too big for you to accomplish alone, I'm sure.
Now that he's bed bound from having strokes, your choices are to either keep hiring in home caregivers through an agency, or have him placed in Skilled Nursing permanently where others can care for him 24/7. You can apply for Medicaid to fund his stay in Skilled Nursing if you cannot afford to private pay. Consult with a Certified Elder Care attorney for guidance on that matter and to find out how to keep your home intact for yourself at the same time. You don't want to be left destitute so your husband can live in a nursing home! That's where the EC attorney can be helpful.
Wishing you the best of luck finding a solution to this issue.
Now that he's bed bound from having strokes, your choices are to either keep hiring in home caregivers through an agency, or have him placed in Skilled Nursing permanently where others can care for him 24/7. You can apply for Medicaid to fund his stay in Skilled Nursing if you cannot afford to private pay. Consult with a Certified Elder Care attorney for guidance on that matter and to find out how to keep your home intact for yourself at the same time. You don't want to be left destitute so your husband can live in a nursing home! That's where the EC attorney can be helpful.
Wishing you the best of luck finding a solution to this issue.
Too late to benefit from what happened in her past history.
YES to the lawyer! And the best she can find.