Just wanted to know how others deal with family members that don't help or even visit.
I am 51, quit a good paying job,11 yrs I am a certified medical assistant, am living with my ailing 83 yr old mom, was working full time, finally got her on passport which is a whole different story, it took 6 months, but when we got her on it, it took them 2 months to find an aide as there was as shortage of aides. When they did find an agency, to say the least they were horrible. Well, the stress of never knowing if the girl was going to show up at 630 am (which there were days she didn't) and I was already at work, I decided to quit my job and become my moms full time caregiver,. I work for an agency and get paid.
I have 2 brothers, 1 who is 10 yrs older than me and comes over everyday at bedtime and helps me get her in bed, (wont change diapers), but helps out in every other way, then the other one has nothing to do with my mom he is 2 yrs older than me, and this started long before she got sick. For no good reason.
She recently contracted C-diff from one of the hospice nurses. What a nightmare.
I have 2 children, Lauren 24 who works full time has no children lives with her boyfriend, and Freddy 21 works full time and then some and has a fiance' and my one and only granddaughter who is 14 months old. Lauren does help when she can god bless her, and my son well, he is a boy and he works 7 days a week. His little woman doesn't work, well thats it she doesn't work.
My brother that helps has no children, his wife of 32 yrs passed away suddenly it will be 6 yrs on 12/28 of this yr. She was like my sister. If she was here, she would help all the time, My other brother has 2 children Tawnya 25 who is an RN not married no kids works 3 on and 4 off, and Brad 23 works and is worthless like his dad.
How does everyone else deal with this?
Burntout in Ohio