My dad passed away in February, leaving my 98 year old mother. My mother has a walker and lots of arthritis pain. She was insistent on living "independently" in their bungalow condo until I had to go back to work in June. I was helping her daily. Finally mom moved to a retirement residence in July. Since my dad passed away, I have been taking care of everything for my mom. When she moved to the retirement residence, my sister finally came from out of country and helped me clean out the house and sell it. That was a solid 3 week, 10 hour day job. I work full time plus, so can visit my mom twice a month usually. My mom calls me daily, if not twice daily. I can no longer deal with her constant negativity about pretty much everything. It brings me down and derails me for the whole weekend. Much as I am doing everything in my power to help myself heal from the loss of my dad, these phone calls put me back to square one. I can't bring myself to visit after that, as I'm tired of going to visit her on my own, and I can't stand another face to face session of negativity. I have no idea what to do and no support from the few family members that I have, so it's all on me. I'm so burned out that I have difficulty getting back into my own life again. Any suggestions?