She's 92 with CHF, had a heart attack and can not live on her own. DH expects me to do all cooking, cleaning, meds, appointments, deal with hospice, deal with selling her house, set up showings, follow up phone calls ect in addition to usual housework and upkeep. We are both retired and able to care for her. Right now this is the best place for her to be. I have been able to get rid of excess fluids by adhering to a low sodium diet for her, her lungs had fluid, swollen ankles when she first came here, thankfully her lungs are clear and no more swelling. Problem is he has been so negative about everything. Granted he will run a dust mop over the floor once in a while but complains that it needs to be washed. I wash it, next meal she doesn't listen when I tell her to leave her plate on the table, I'll get it, she drips food off the plate and walks thru it, back to square 1 again, there's spots on the floor. I haven't been out by myself in a couple of months now, "take mom with you" last time I ran to the corner store by myself all I heard was her complaints to his sisters that I didn't take her with, then I get lectured by them how mom needs to get out of the house too and that I need to take her with me. To top it all off, he's pouting that HE doesn't get to do anything fun anymore. That it's like he's not married and all alone by himself because I don't spend enough time with him and when she goes he's gone. Real nice to hear after 36 years. I asked him if he wanted me to leave his reply was no, I can't afford for you to leave right now. I can't even go to the bathroom without one of them calling me for something. If it's not her, it's him. Emotionally and physically drained.