I've been keeping a sort of "incident log" on Mom for the past six months or so. Things like falls, major episodes of confusion, her trying to leave, etc. Recently, I read something that mentioned keeping track of the little things like being confused about the day of the week, etc. Is there a rule of thumb here? What do doctors and LTC look for? For instance, this morning, she walked into my husband's office (thinking it was her bedroom), opened the closet door, and told him she was looking for her hairpins. Besides her going into the wrong room... she hasn't used hairpins in 50 years. Is that something worth noting? I'm just not sure how detailed I should be in my notes.
You may, as you read through your entries, realize that there's a pattern going on; her confusion is greater in the morning, and she's sleeping more in the afternoon, and why does doctor think that is?
Just an example of how you can use your notes.
things like
weight loss, increased sleeping, eating more, eating less, being more confused as to location might be something to note.
It depends on how "independent" mom is.
If she has always (since the diagnosis) kept herself groomed then all of a sudden she stops.
If he was continent of bowel but not now, that is a decline. (common to be urine incontinent but still bowel continent)
Increased agitation. Make note of the time of day. (sundowning)
If mom was dressing herself but now can't, that is a decline
Withdrawing from people and activities. That is a decline.
Talking less, or not at all.
Trouble eating or drinking. Coughing , choking, pocketing food.
Anything that you notice that might be a decline make note of it. It may not mean anything now but in a month it might mean a lot.
So, perhaps you can use that criteria in deciding what to record or not record. Does her action or non-action indicate an impact on her ability to function on a daily basis. Your log can determine a pattern of remaining constant or declining and in what areas it is declining.
Good luck, I hope this helps.
I'm sorry for your loss and I hope that those lovely memories, whilst bringing pain will also bring you comfort.
Wishing you well.
can you imagine someone doing that to you or I?
if you notice your mother forgetful then she’s forgetful
it didn’t have to be micro managed
you may be well organised but it will send even the most organised person over the edge or those around you having to cope with the obsession
if you have reason fir concern just tell doctor
shes getting more forgetful
shes having regular falls I’d like a review of her health and tablets please
Good luck
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