Help! My husband (68) has an Alzheimer’s diagnosis which has been progressing very slowly. He was always kind of self-absorbed and judgmental before – and it’s seems super extreme now that he has nothing to do and no motivation. He used to be motivated and a hard worker. Now, because of his loss of logic skills and depression about future, he just sits around playing solitaire and thinking about his ailments. He can still hold conversations just fine and can drive to the Dr and Home Depot, so he’s nowhere near being ready to be put away. Our son graduated from college about a year ago and has had a lot of trouble finding a job in his field – or anything even close to his field. He is depressed about this but is also having trouble getting motivated because he just thinks it will lead to nothing. His girlfriend lives here (not sure how that happened) and has two part-time jobs. They keep a low profile so they won’t bother us. Husband gets out of control angry frequently. This used to happen in the past – every so often. But now it’s like it’s his mission to yell at and confront my son about getting off his a** and doing something. And I agree that my son SHOULD do something – but husband’s way of doing this is causing such anguish. I tell husband to talk to son – don’t start off by yelling – start with a conversation. But he’s been going BERSERK regularly – threatening to kick him out and to “do something” and actually, on occasion, charging him (I mean getting up and running at him). He makes us both super upset. He’s made son cry a couple of times. Son used to put effort into supporting husband emotionally – spending time with him and backing him up in some assertions. But when husband gets a bee in his bonnet it’s like all those positive times never happened and son is “lazy, good for nothing, worthless, etc”. Son and I are both over this. I know husband has the “A” problem, and he DOES forget stuff very easily. I’m just not sure how to handle this. Son has nowhere else to go and to tell the truth, I like having him here as moral support to me. I’m worried for my son, who basically HATES his dad now. We both wish he’d go away.