I'm a 43 year old only child (only living family member to be more specific) who works full time outside the home, and takes care of my 88 year old Grandfather full time inside the home. I have been doing this for about a year now (feels like 20). I have no family to help, and and am finding the 15-20 hour days, 7 days a week, to be overwhelming and exhausting. I love my Grandfather with all my heart and do all this with a smile on my face, but I'm drowning and things just seem to pile up a little more each day. I am missing 1-2 weeks of work a month just to take him to his medical appointments, ER visits, and hospital stays. I spend my lunch hour (when I'm actually at work) making phone calls to doctors offices, keeping appointment calendars, and a personal calendar to see how I'm going to get it all done. At home I'm a cook, maid, psychiatrist, nurse, chauffeur, admin assistant, banker, lawyer, accountant, and on some days a punching bag when he's in a bad mood (verbal, not physical). All of my "friends" have given up on me ever having a life again so they've walked away. My dating and social life has come to a screeching hault. I'm a very patient and laid back person, but this is killing me. I find myself now feeling bitter and envious of people who have the freedom to do something as simple as run to the mall or have lunch with friends. And that is so out of my character. I know it's just burnout. I would love to hear from other only children out there doing this alone.....and some words of wisdom on how you find a balance! God knows I'm trying.