I just joined this site. There is a lot of support and knowledge! I too have my 84 mom living with me she has been here for 9 years. Her decline has been gradual but lately seems more rapid. Recently had another mild stroke and is much weaker. Has vascular dementia. Juat stopped driving (voluntarily) 2 years ago. She is able to do a lot of things for herself though it takes forever!!!! If she has an appointment, I help her. I think she likes that because she really doesn't want to do much. Did lose most vision in her rt eye but 20/20 in the left. Has been 2 years and she still complains about it every chance she gets. Memory worse, i now do her pills, eye drops & dinner. She is not as clean as she used to be. Throws paper in any bag close to her and floor. Im constantly cleaning her bathroom & flushing her toilet. She is not interested in exercise, workbooks, going out (except to beauty shop & church every 2-3 weeks). She has a life alert and it took a couple of falls and a rehab stay for her to keep it on. . My siblings live 5-10 hrs away and she used to go there for 2-3 months per year, now she doesnt wànt to travel. I'm only 49 and have cut my hours down to 32 / week. She talks about wanting to die. Its been hard for me just watching her misery and I am angry. I get frustrated with her turtle speed and complaining about what she can't do. Has only vague symptoms.. Oh I just don't feel good. Period. Loves too sleep. I feel guilty because she has had a hard life. But was very active & energetic. Ahe has never shown love thru hugs & kisses. But will & has given me her last dime. Shes on lexapro and aricept,. It's very hard to watch. I pray for patience and understanding (sometimes out loud). I cry, she cries when I get upset. Thanks for all your posts, they are helpful!!!