My mother is widowed now and 74. For a while after my father died, she was stronger (he suffered with dementia for 2 years) and clearly was analytical and confident in her decisions as she got the house. Now, she is forgetting some things, mixing up names frequently, and is forgetting some conversations. She's very independent usually. But, I'm wondering if it's time to go with her on her next dr visit and make sure she has a power of attorney for health and financial issues. I don't want to put her on the defensive, but don't want her to wait too late to make some arrangements. We don't know if she's paying all her bills on time, if she's taking her medications like she needs. She has had some indicidents (that she told me about) lately where she forgot to take a med, or took double by mistake. What should we look at (my siblings and my mother) as strong indications that she is losing the edge of being able to manager everything on her own?
Her grandson is living with her and looks out for her - he's taken to her to the E/R a couple of times when she got hurt around the house, and has burned herself a couple of times in the kitchen recently. She still drives fine, and is involved in her church, and connects by phone to her sister and me every day.