My father has recently decided he wants no contact with me (his only daughter) and his two granddaughters. This is mainly because last year he began a new relationship after being a widower for 11 years. During that time me and my daughters visited him regularly as he lived alone and he had lots of friends and went out regularly. Once his new lady friend arrived he made it clear we were not as welcome to visit. I cannot hide the fact I find her rather odd but have tried to be civil towards her, even though she does not return the favour. Basically she refuses to speak to me on most occasions despite me always giving a greeting, not overstaying and bidding farewell if she has failed to engage in any other conversation. Yesterday she phoned to speak to me basically to pick an argument, the most she has ever said to me. When she could not fault that I am civil to her she became enraged. The phone was passed to my father who also became verbally abusive and ended with him saying he does not want any of us to visit ever again.
In some ways I would be happy with this as it least it means we no longer have to suffer such abuse but underlying this is the fact it still leaves him in this toxic relationship. The woman seems to have an agenda which is to get him away from anyone else he is close to. She has forced him to sell the lovely house he had in favour of a grotty little bungalow and I feel like it is only a matter of time before she makes a a start on his savings.
His current will leaves anything he still has to me. Though I am sure she will try and get him to change this very soon. I don't care about money as what you have never had you never miss but I do object to her being allowed to over rule what really was my deceased mum's wishes.
I want to try an retain a relationship with him despite his angry outbursts and do have concerns that he may be unwell which is exacerbating these.
How on earth can I remedy this? We are happy to make visits infrequent but don't see why we should be kept from our only family by someone in this way.
Her actions toward my father also seem abusive to me.
How do I help now ?