18 months ago my husband and I took the plunge to move my parents in with us and our three young children (currently 1, 3, 5). At the time my parents were struggling to make ends meet, they were caring for a severely autistic 12 year old with some challenging behaviours and physical needs, it was getting harder and harder for them to care for him (baths, hygiene) as he was quite larger than them. They also provided chikd care for other children in their home during the day, my dad is 74 andmom 62, so not elderly but certainly at a point where they're lifestyle was getting too much. At one point, my father got sick, unsure if he would make it, mom needed support with the kids, foster child etc. Caring for my own kids, trying to support them, I felt like change was needed that would allow a more manageable life. Dad was also diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment, glimpses of which are evident daily, he gets confused, forgets things here and there etc. Anyway, mom was very resistant to the idea, she fought it and refused, then gave in but I still recall tge tears and hurt she had those first months. Mostly the pain of selling her house and moving from her friends. This has given them the opportunity to travel, pay off debts, live a gentler lifem have no bills except for their phone and cable. I really thought they would welcome the opportunity but instead money is not enough, they are tight for money (not sure how) , mom is miserable, dad seems happier but mom definitely cannot accept her life, she bresks down cries, what did she do, she hates how she is living (in law suite, own bathroom, own kitchen etc.own entrance ) basically its not her own house, it is still a basement and not enough, she barely gets out but stays in the basement, watchestv, says that grandkids and her kids aaren't enough, she misses her friends (a 30 minute drive which is too far for her) her social life and I really just don't know what to do. She'd like us to buy her a house in her old neighborhood, but I don't know how we're supposed to find money for that but I get it after being a homeowner it is hard to go back to renting, but what do I do? I think given staying or renting she'd stsy out of pride , to embarrassing for her otherwise. I just don't know what to do!