As some of you may have noticed, my elderly Dad does a good job of annoying me a lot of the time! I shouldn't let it get to me and should be more firm with him. But I was thinking about what does wind me up and wonder whether you all think my approach is right with what I expect etc from elderly person.
1. If you can do it yourself or help yourself then do it. Don't expect others to help because you can't be bothered.
2. Help others to help you and be a little bit flexible. Don't be stubborn and want things all your own way especially when others are sorting things out to make everyones life easier.
3. Appreciate that family have other responsibilities and not just you. You don't have a right to unlimited time.
Sadly, my Dad fails badly on all three of these.....
If he can get someone to do something for him he just won't bother himself (in fact, I think he likes having someone run around for him). He is totally inflexible and won't listen to anyone its his way or not at all - in the past hes expected me to travel 2 hours to pick him up to take him to appointment rather than pay for a £10 taxi. Worse of all - he does not care about what I've got on, issues/responsibilities I have for my own family - and has said he expects to be put first.
Am I being unfair on him?