Recently found out about the aid and attendance option for my grandmom... grandfather was an army vet. I sent in the paperwork and after several months got a response ~ it was denied. The VA cited that she ‘makes too much money’ (...she was a government employee for over 30 years) But in reality she’s only $500.00 over the limit. My grandfather had colon cancer (which took his life in the end) ~ VA also said that his cancer was not the cause of his discharge so he wouldn’t be eligible. However, they did say that we could appeal the decision if she needed more care (severely declining health I assume) and it was medically documented. For my weekday job, I have grandmom in a senior center ~ more interaction than anything. She gets to be around other seniors and have a good time while I’m at work. She does have some forgetfulness (definitely not full blown dementia) but nothing major. She’s not a wanderer. She tends to go with the flow, with whatever the situation may be. The Senior Care staff have told me Gran is a very easy going person ~ even without her hearing (genetic hearing loss - hearing aid doesn’t do much...but she can still hear, but not too well). As long as she has her word search book (or any book to read for that matter), she’s content. Her family doctor filled out the health history paperwork. He seemed to think that financially may be an issue but the fact she’s 96 may even things out, in her favor. Is it worth appealing the VA decision? Or should I just let it go and reapply in the future (they did say that I had the option to reapply in the future if desired)? I do try to keep her children informed (after all, it is their mother) but due to the nature of it...not so sure. Her youngest son (his ‘girlfriend’) can be an issue. The girlfriend is quite the gold digger and has tried to put grandmom in a nursing home in the past. The gold digger even called APS earlier in the year (thinking she’d get her into a nursing home, making sure I’m homeless).