I am ready to blow up and do not know what to do.

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I am ready to blow up and do not know what to do.

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So when my ex and I broke up, we left one bank account open together with $5 in it because of a boat loan that we have a usage agreement on. I got home from work and got a funds availibility email from the bank, and I was like wtf no one uses the account. I already turned them in for the life insurance check his mom was trying to hide from Medicaid two months ago. I logged on and her f'n check is in the account. I am in a rage right now. That woman owes me so much money its unreal besides everything else. I am ready to just fly off the handle which won't be pretty. I can't yell at her because you know she will pull the fake tears, which makes it elder abuse...lol yeah right. That b!tch needs to just be put away to die in her own filth and misery...I hate her. Any ideas what I do with the money, because I don't want it there?

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R Rainmom Apr 2017 · Answer 1 · 04/24/2017 11:49:55

Tacy - when my ex and I divorced he moved back to his native country of Australia.

At first, I was scared to death - having to raise a disabled child alone as I knew I'd never hear from him again. I also felt bad for my son - being completely abandoned by his own father.

It didn't take me long to realize what a blessing this was - and even for my son. No more abuse, no arguments over money, no shared decision making and no worries about how the ex would react to the frustrations of dealing with a child with disabilities.

As you know you did the right thing. While you're at it - cut every single possible tie you have with your ex and his toxic family. You and your son will be the better for it - and as for the ex? His loss. You can't help someone who can't/won't accept the truth and the responsibility of their part in their own self-destruction.

B BarbBrooklyn Apr 2017 · Answer 2 · 04/24/2017 04:49:00

Venting is good! Glad that you were able to fix this. Well done!

T tacy022 Apr 2017 · Answer 3 · 04/24/2017 04:45:34

Barb, the caller ID on the phone said restricted so I thought it was the police or the fraud unit calling. I didnt think they were smart enough to block caller ID.

Thanks everyone for the support, i was just so mad Friday because it was after 5, the bank was closed and there was nothing i could do based on timing so i needed to vent.

B BlackHole Apr 2017 · Answer 4 · 04/23/2017 23:18:47

Hang tough, Tacy.

C Countrymouse Apr 2017 · Answer 5 · 04/23/2017 07:47:29

Proud of you Tacy. So proud of you.

It didn't go over well that they thought they could make you a party to criminal fraud and they were oh so wrong.

Well oh dearie me, did it not. I hope they get ripped new ones. Rage away, dears, rage away.

B BarbBrooklyn Apr 2017 · Answer 6 · 04/23/2017 07:38:05

Tacy, do you have caller ID? Why answer the phone when it's " them"?

T tacy022 Apr 2017 · Answer 7 · 04/23/2017 06:00:46

Jeannie, I reported the check for her husbands death to the MDHHS back when they asked my mom for her roof invoice to use as a "qualified expense" so she could keep the money. The credit union was open til noon yesterday so I went in and had a a fit. They ended up calling in the manager on her day off. I paid off the boat, filled out fraud paperwork and had them freeze the account until the paperwork is processed which they said could take 48 business hours then the account can be closed. They said people will be in contact. I work in finance/accounting and this shady crap could really screw up my life so I just dont want any part of it.

Needless to say, they went to the ATM yesterday to withdraw money so she could go to the casino and found out what I did. It didnt go over well and I took more verbal abuse.

J jeannegibbs Apr 2017 · Answer 8 · 04/22/2017 16:33:48

His mom got a check from a life insurance company. Who died? You've already turned her in for hiding the check from Medicaid. Who did your report this to? You might report to the same agency that the check is now deposited in an account you own jointly with her son and you have nothing to do with it getting there.

Then I think you have done your duty as a concerned citizen. It is up to authorities to take further action.

Do not spend the money! But if you have reported it to the appropriate agency, I don't see how you have any further responsibility for it.

(Can't you and your ex handle the boat loan from separate accounts?)

B BlackHole Apr 2017 · Answer 9 · 04/22/2017 15:51:25

((((hugs)))) Tacy, I have no answers for you, but I am sending good vibes. That crew has put you through A LOT. This latest curveball is unfair and uncalled-for. Deep breath.....stay strong. Your character is superior to theirs, and you will prevail.

T tacy022 Apr 2017 · Answer 10 · 04/21/2017 20:57:33

The thing is i was just going to pay the boat off even though there was a payment schedule and usage schedule. Its a 150k boat and less than 11k was owed. My therapist encouraged me to stick to the agreement and not financially bail people out anymore. I am mad at myself right now for listening to that quack. Its just so f'd up because everytime i think its under control some bs just happens that sends me over the edge.