I have been my dads caretaker and I have POA and have lived with him for almost 10 years. My siblings say if my dad goes into long term nursing care, they want me out of the house and to not continue living there. He still has a good mind, but I don't want him to know how my siblings are treating me. I'm not sure what to do here. My boyfriend has helped me with my dad also and lives her with us and we are both disabled.
It appears that you have a good relationship with your father. You might need to tell him what your siblings have said to you. It will be easier to transfer the home to you now, while his mind is good. You would not be able to make the transfer with the POA; that would be considered "self-dealing."
I am aware that Medicaid can force the sell and I may have to leave, that's not a problem with me because it is what it is. But for my siblings to just say they want me out of the house because he went into a nursing home is just unfathomable. They have no control unless something should happen to me that I cannot continue to be POA, then it goes to my sister. That's the way his will paperwork is written. Only if he passes, then the home is put in everyones name to avoid probate. I intend to fulfill his wishes no matter what.
Can you afford to pay taxes, bills and upkeep on the house? Did you care for Dad for over two years in his home and you living there with him? If so, Medicaid has a Caregiver Allowance which allows you to stay in the house. Just being a disabled child may allow u to stay in the house if its your residence.
What do your siblings think they can do, you have POA. They are not entitled to anything Dad has until he passes. If the house were to be sold, the profit has to be placed in an account for Dads care. Anything else would be gifting by Medicaid and then penalties would be given and Dad could not get Medicaid until that penalty is met. Medicaid also determines who lives in the house. It can't be rented out. Those not living in it previously may have to pay rent.
You need to talk to an elder lawyer concerning your rights. You and your siblings need to do this right or Dad will suffer. Once Dad is in care, I may change the locks. As POA you have a right to protect what is there.
You are POA and Dad is of sound mind. What the siblings want is of no matter whatsoever.
When and if your father is unable to make decisions and function in his own mental status, then you make the decisions in his best interests, and YOU decide what bills to pay in what order, what to sell for his care, or keep until his death, and etc. You function as you believe he would have preferred and in his best interests to the best of your ability. And again, it doesn't matter a bit what the siblings think or want. YOU were the one chosen. Moreover, you are NOT FREE to discuss Dad's private choices and finances with your siblings. It is not their business unless Dad shares it with them. It is your Dad's business, and yours ALONE as his POA. IF the siblings object they can pay an attorney to intervene for them. So keep GOOD RECORDS of all finances.