She's broke, I don't have money to put her in AL. She has just a smidge too much money to qualify for Medicaid, and in any event more than likely won't qualify for nursing home level of care. She's going to outlive me. But, a dirt nap sounds pretty damn nice right now.
Be ready for the next health event that requires hospitalization and then act on getting her placed.
What kind of care needs does your mother have? Are there boundaries you should have with her that you currently don’t have?
You don't say it she lives with you? Or you with her? But in either case that would be poor decision making.
If she has too much to apply for Medicaid then she should either spend down, or see an attorney about QIT trust or Miller Trust to handle that issue, or go into ALF and spend it down until she qualifies, attempting to find an ALF that allows her to stay on Medicaid.
If you continue to insist on being all the solutions, and on insisting on being responsible for her life and her happiness she is almost certainly going to allow you to do that; it's easier for her.
Good luck.
And by no means do you spend one penny of your own money on her care as you will some day need that for yourself.
If you don't take good care of yourself your mom just may outlive you, so just breath and know that everything is going to work out and that your mom will get placed sooner than later.
Now...go take that much needed nap.