Sorry all. Planning my own important issues has become so much on the back burner - is it time to just up and go? I pay for things and never get to do them, I work on weekends now and rarely see my children, and I have poor health and cannot afford to pay for it, and lastly I am not getting any help at all. How does one up and leave when it just becomes a lose-lose situation? Without injuring feelings or anyone's health. This is a tough question.