Over 6 years ago I bought a big house so that I could take care of my mother with Alzheimer’s. Knowing I can’t do this alone, I moved my brother and his wife in to assist with caregiving. I work 3 Days a week, for my own sanity. On my days off, I feel like the burden of mom's care is primarily on me.
My biggest concern is that my mother's biggest issue is loneliness. Her basic needs are met. Meds, food, etc. but it seems as if my brother and his wife avoid mom. Not spending as much time with her, leaving her in front of a tv all day and night. She is confused most of the time. Unaware that she is in her home, always waiting for someone to pick her up and take her to her babies. (Her babies are grandparents now)
I feel like my brother and his wife should spend more time with her.
They leave mom to sleep all day, resulting in late night confusion.
Mom is on meds for A-fib, thyroid, alzheimers, anxiety, and pain (several compression fractures in her back) her mobility is from bedroom to living room and to the car. Very Short distance walking only. Due to lack of mobility, we don’t think she is capable of wandering further than 100 feet.
Again, the question is, if none of us has the patience to sit by her side all the live long day, would she be best off in a facility where she has more social interaction? She desires constant companionship, often offering us to spend the night in her room, or sit next to her for hours. (I’m so restless, couch potato, not my thing, I’m often cleaning or cooking, but being present)
Her stage? She forgets anything and everything that occurs almost within minutes afterward. You could take her on her favorite drive, lunch whatever. By the time you pull into the driveway it’s all gone. Leaving it feel like it was all for not. Except for your own memory of her enjoying the moment. It’s all so hard.
We have a caregiver visit her for about 3 hours a week.
Is it OK to just let them sit alone hour after hour?