Someone recently commented to a question I posted previously, about second-guessing ourselves whether we did everything we possibly could have to take care of a loved one in crisis… She so significantly said "it's not like I had practice" regarding how helpless we all are when suddenly we’re responsible for someone who is even more helpless because we’re all they have to count on.. I wish there was at least some sort of manual - guidelines - book? – to help people know how things work, what to look for, do, feel. It isn't right or fair that the story is the same - OVER AND OVER - of struggle, panic, grief, despair, frustration, exhaustion, bad decisions - for everyone who has to deal with a horrible situation that hits us without warning! Gee, our loved one is devastatingly hurt, and we are expected to instantly know all the in's and out's of what to do! Surgery or not? Nursing home/rehab/skilled nursing/assisted living/adult foster home... What do all of these mean, entail, and how can "we" figure out what (or where) is best when we have probably 2, 3, 4 days to decide and act? (Existing organizations to call for “help” were not reliable in my case…) I keep wracking my brain trying to figure out some way my experiences (and others here with similar or "new" situations) can be morphed into some positive form for others who follow... There just has to be a solution? We shouldn't have to re-invent the same story over and over!
Maybe someone wiser than I has some positive ideas - a potential solution? Maybe our pain could form a truly helpful guide for the caregivers and loved ones in the future?