I actually REALLY enjoy taking care of my grandma. If she is lashing out there is a reason for it and I just cajole her out of it. I kinda wonder if the reason so many people are struggling with being care providers is that they cant let go of who the person was and their childhood resentments. I NEVER EVER argue with grandma because nobody actually wins an argument with a dementia patient. She is always right but I still get things done my way by working around her known triggers. Maybe its because most people come to places like this when there are issues but I feel like many are told not to be a caregiver on here and to just find a home. Caregiving can be a totally fulfilling experience and yes there are often frustrations but heck I can say the same about raising children. Being a caregiver isn't for people that have to be right and in control all the time, you have to be flexible understanding and extremely empathetic. There is NO nursing home that can provide care better than me and all that nursing home staff is divided among a ton of patients meaning each one only gets very few hours a day of direct care time. I was a CNA in a nursing home there is ZERO time for the type of one on one I do here. BTW, I've been doing this with her in my home with a husband AND children for almost 3 years 24/7 with occasional day aides.